Many of us “fear fear itself.” So when we’re having a bad day, we seem to perpetuate it by resisting it or worrying that we won’t be able to change it. We all like control; its important for us to know that if something is going wrong, we can fix it. But some days, unfortunately, bad can’t be fixed.

Or is it unfortunate? Are bad days really that bad?

The way you handle a trying time is a spiritual calibrator, monitoring your inner mettle. If you melt down because your car breaks down or a cashier treats you rudely, than chances are, you have some work to do.

So the next time you wake up and the day ahead of you seems dark and your mood seems darker, take a deep breath and treat yourself kindly. Watch yourself from a distance when a trigger comes your way. Don’t try to force a good mood. That will only frustrate. Allow your bad mood and your bad day to go its own unmerry way.

Often, when we allow a bad state of mind to just be, we realize that we’re in pain and need to face up to that, whether that means a good cry or a scream or writing in your journal or talking to a friend.

Resistance can actually exacerbate a bad mood and a bad day. Life is often beyond our control. And certainly a bad day can bring up our constant need to “fix it.” But what if its just not fixable? Can you live with that? Better yet, can you embrace what is uncontrollable in your life?

Can you let go and let a bad day lead the way?